I joined TikTok around 2022 because I wanted to learn how the app worked. Before that, I spent years watching beauty creators on YouTube. I trusted much of what they said and bought products that I hoped would help me during a hard time.
That experience made me ask bigger questions about influence online.
In 2023, I announced a project to study the influencer world from the inside. I wanted to learn how hidden brand deals, filters, online friendships, and influencer culture can shape what people buy and how they feel about themselves.
My account soon became a record of the full path an influencer can take—from viewer, to creator, to public target, and finally to advocate.
Through this work, I have interviewed and gotten to know celebrities and major content creators who have faced serious online pressure and harm. I have also interviewed people about why they use social media, why they avoid it, and how it changes the way they see themselves and their appearance.
I have gotten to know women whose lives and families were shaped by organized crime. They include mob wives, cartel wives, daughters, and granddaughters. Some never had the chance to know their mothers. Others lost family members to organized crime.
Their experiences remind me that these lives are not costumes, trends, or entertainment. They involve real women, real families, grief, fear, strength, and survival. I protect their names and private stories.
On April 5, 2023, after I disagreed with another creator, I became the target of long-term online harassment. People made threats about exposing my past. Some showed knowledge of private parts of my life and past relationships. I felt pressured to discuss personal experiences publicly or leave social media.
The harm grew to include cyberbullying, doxxing, stalking, and false stories about me. By March 2026, the pressure had reached a level that showed me how dangerous online abuse can become.
The exposure created by this supposedly “anonymous” harassment and the confirmation bias behind it has not disproved my life story. If anything, it has repeatedly confirmed that my account is accurate. Not one identifiable person—someone willing to stand behind a face and name and who personally knows any of the parties involved—has publicly discredited me. Nothing presented through this harassment has proven anything I have said to be false.
The experience has done nothing but strengthen my resolve. It has also been a fascinating revelation of how the burden of proof can keep rising for an online target. Each time a target answers one claim, a new claim appears and the target is asked to prove even more. That moving standard shows that the harassment was never truly about whether I was a former mob wife. Once that claim was answered, the attacks immediately shifted to my appearance, whether I edited my content, my mental health, and plain bullying that had nothing to do with proving or disproving my life story. I have seen the same pattern in the experiences of other influencers who became online targets.
I stayed grounded by studying the pattern, saving evidence, and trying to understand what was happening. A creator without that purpose, knowledge, or support could be pushed into a serious mental health crisis.
I also research cases involving influencers who died by suicide. I ask what warning signs were missed and what tools, support, or safety steps might have helped. No creator should be left alone while thousands of people attack them online.
People should not have to hire an expensive reputation management company as their only way to protect their name. They deserve clear tools that can help them save evidence, report abuse, correct false information, and create their own source of truth.
My goal is to make those tools free or low-cost. I also want victims to use them without having to read harmful posts again and again. This can reduce emotional harm and lower the risk of online abuse becoming a mental health crisis.
I study how influence and false stories spread through social media, celebrity news, public court cases, marketing, and fan groups. I also study how technology, SEO manipulation, sock-puppet networks, and coordinated repetition can be used to create a public narrative around politicians, celebrities, influencers, and other public figures. I want people to recognize when public opinion is being shaped and to check reliable sources before joining an online pile-on.
I am a mother on a mission to change the future of digital safety.
Being tormented or stalked online should never be treated as a rite of passage for using social media.